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And our hamster wheel turns merrily...

It is truly an interesting phenomenon - knowledge does not equal change, let alone improvement.

Although we have long known that stress, too much work, days without breaks, too many meetings in a row, toxic relationships, etc. are extremely unhealthy for us and our bodies, and that we can become mentally and physically ill as a result, change is still very limited in many places. On the contrary, those of us who have grown up with it have split into two camps - the dropouts and the advocates.

The current generation

We berate the next generation for their outrageous ideas and expectations of life, but see no reason to even begin to rethink our way of life. Not in the sense of a 180-degree turn, but to the extent that we are not constantly harming ourselves and others. And I'm not talking about lip service here, such as sport for employees, regular team events and the like.

The majority of people have been suffering for many years from the self-created conditions with which we drive ourselves through everyday life. Higher, faster, further, more successful and the whole thing all over again because it was so much fun.

The fact that we "lose" many along the way, who become ill, can no longer stand it, succumb to the constant struggle, is something we conceal and deliberately overlook. On the contrary, we often boast about our performance and stamina. Many of us have long since lost touch with ourselves and no longer even know how we really feel, because there is no feeling left.

Some take refuge in "healthy" hobbies, such as extreme sports in various forms like marathons, triathlons, yoga, climbing, biking, etc., indulge in veganism, others dope themselves with food supplements, submit to intermediate fasting, live the dry Jan or simply numb themselves with socially recognised addictive substances.

Our sufferings

Our condition worsens, we feel drained, are often overwhelmed, almost break under the pressure, suffer from listlessness and inner compulsion, but... although we know about all these consequences, we are not able to break out and stop. To just let it go. To put our energy into other solutions.

Despite all our knowledge, we implement shockingly little. Why is that?

My guess is fear. The fear of being the first. The fear of failure. The fear of realising that there is no better way. And certainly much more.

A first step for each of us would certainly be to recognise for ourselves what we need to get through the day well and efficiently and to implement these rules vigorously. Who is more important to you than yourself?

My vision

My vision is that if we all do this, there will be no more meeting marathons, no more urgent requests before 8 a.m. and after 8 p.m., we will no longer bully each other at weekends and on holiday, we will start to respect each other's boundaries. Because then those who cling to the old, unhealthy and harmful structures will suddenly be the "odd ones out".

As always, there will have to be those who will not only take the first step, but also the steps that follow - for themselves and others.

  • Where do you stand?

  • How far along are you with your ideas for your future?

  • What changes would be beneficial for you?

Start working on your wish list today and turn it into your vision! Start putting it into practice tomorrow! Step by step.



Coaching offers ideal support here to either take the first steps in self-reflection and self-management and to directly implement new skills that enable and empower all those involved to learn to deal well and confidently with relevant situations in relationships.

Trusting that the best possible solution will be allowed to develop and be implemented.


Coaching can provide you with targeted support in overcoming upcoming challenges at every stage - internally in the team or as a leader in the company. Let's work out together how I can provide you in your individual situation with optimal support and customised assistance.

Contact me to take your next steps

Nicole Dildei Coaching

+49 157 58 267 427

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